(I'm writing this to you now, because as most of you know that I'll probably be an emotional mess [read 'a big baby'] on the last day of school and will probably not be able to get out even a "goodbye" after the graduation ceremony. So here is what I would tell you if I could. Here you go)
There's a scene in a movie that was made way before you were born (1989), 'When Harry Met Sally", when the wife of one of the main characters (Harry played by Billy Crystal) drops him off and before she's even out of sight he says to her "I miss you already, I miss you already." As I write this letter with 10 instructional days left and while I watch you wearily take yet another standardized test in the computer lab, I know how Harry felt.
I didn't really know what to expect when I decided to make the change from a 1st grade class I taught last year, to the 6th grade of Room 216 this year. From the time I started moving in to the school, beginning with the summer custodial crew, I was being warned about "this incoming group of 6th graders." I have to be honest, I didn't really listen. I didn't need to know other people's ideas about you.
I was fortunate enough to talk one on one with John Maxwell once after his speech in which he said, "People do not care how much you know until they know how much you care." You should know by now that I do.
Turns out that there was nothing to worry about anyway. You have amazed me. You inspire me. I want to thank you for helping me become a better teacher. You won't get the benefit of my learnings, but next year class will thank you for what you have taught me. I will be a better teacher because of you. You have allowed me to mistakes, accepted my apologies as I have accepted yours, and we've all moved forward together.
It has been a really interesting journey as I have gotten to know you all. You are all so very different, but have so many things in common. I'll thank once again, those of you who guessed my age as 20-ish during the "Nine Answers about Mr Johnson" scavenger hunt at the beginning of the year, but it has been a LOT longer than 15 years since I was in 6th grade. It's tough being twelve-ish isn't it?
Some things to consider as you move on:
- Live your life with some regret. That's probably exactly opposite of what you will hear rich people or celebrities will tell you, but don't be afraid to look backwards and realize that you could have done some things better. Mistakes and the learning they provide you, make you who you are, but don't be so selfish or keep your world prism so small that you plow through life without realizing you're capable of more than you can possibly know.
- Be humble. Barry Sanders never spiked the ball (Google him). "If and when you get into the end zone, act like you have been there a thousand times before" - The Tragically Hip. My only sports analogy and lyric quotation in this post are here to try and say that you should always be proud of what you accomplish, but realize that there will always be someone better, faster, prettier, stronger, or smarter than you. Be happy and proud of what you accomplish. Don't compare yourself to others. Be the best at what and who you are.
- Take risks. Not the kind of risks that diminish your spirit, your sense of self or physically hurt you or others, but risks that help you grow and prosper. "Ships are safe in the harbor, but that's not what ships are built for." - Grace Murray Hopper
- There is tremendous pain in the world, but also tremendous good. It is easy to see the pain in the world and think that we cannot attain more, but we are all capable of great compassion and love. There are plenty of examples of hope and kindness, you just might have to look harder and remember longer. If you figure out a way to remember the compliments more than criticism, give me a call someday and tell me the secret.
- Your friends today don't have to last you a lifetime. We all change and everyone have different paths we have to follow. Follow yours.Realize that the people in your life today don't have a ticket to ride along forever. Value and appreciate your time that you have together, but when you have reached the natural end of the friendship. Move along with grace.
- Figure out who you are before you attach your identity to someone else.
- Be kind, not mean.The boy or girl you're mad at because their holding someone else's hand or you heard that they said something bad about you, won't even remember your name in three years. They will however, remember the mean things that come from you if you take that path. Erase Meanness and replace it with kindness.
- Practice my "Grandma Rule" PLEASE! If you wouldn't say it, show it, or write it to Grandma, don't type it, text it, post it, or take a photo of it. Be aware that YOU control your digital footprint and that it is forever. Make it a positive one.
- Read a relevant book every six months. Not one assigned by a teacher, you'll get enough of those anyway. Read a book that interests you. A book that has made a difference in the world or tells you about someone who has lived an interesting life. I stole this advice from the head of the National Science Foundation who advised it at my college graduation and I have tried to heed it every year since. While I'm at it, write! Blog, journal, keep a notebook of your thoughts, whatever. Writing can unlock life. Choose great words. Get better at writing by doing. Reading good writers makes you a better writer. Read. Write.
- Wear funny hats. Run for no reason at all, like a kindergartner. Laugh. Travel. Explore. Move out of your current zip code someday. Draw with chalk on the sidewalk. Do some of the things that the old people you know did, but don't want you to know about. Be careful. Be good to one another.
All my best,
6th Grade 2011-2012
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